Emotional laws are the answer for better Marriage 2.0 -- a system update for lifelong 1 day ago   17:58

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Nuclear physics, astronomy and molecular biology truly lack complexity when they are juxtaposed to one word: relationships. Interpersonal relationships represent probably one of the most complicated ideas that have troubled the human mind.

Whether it's aristocracy, models, professional athletes or every day couples they all face the same difficulty of making their relationships work. Diana Wais talked about how "we are all the same" and how we respond with criticism when we feel threatened by words.

However, it is important to "respond to the other person's need with empathy", she said. It is difficult to understand when you are being emotional and when irrational. Her most valid point though was that, as individuals, we need to conquer the unconscious emotions and understand that essentially, we are all fighting the same internal fight.

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Melissa Session
And daniel amen .. brain scan man ... seems to have a better answer...
Cat Santiago
truth is stranger than fiction, sometimes the intention in doing something is way different from the action itself...
George Brown
Anyone else try to blow the thing off the top left of the screen at 1:48?
Blue Jay
Sometimes it's better to be kind than to be right.
sweet ash
but then.... how do you heal it? that question isn't answered.
Jeanette Rogers
Im in AA, and the 4th step in the program, basically asks those same four questions. That’s one of the key reasons why the program of AA is so life changing :)
Maria Malhotra
Starts at 3.50
Katelyn McCorkle
"
1. What is getting triggered in me?
2. What am I afraid of?
3. What is underneath of that?
4. What do I need to heal in me to not respond like this in the future? "
Chahid Boudount
Isn't this just a explanation of emphaty ? something what defiantly is important.
Kenya Amina
very on point, one of the better relationship Ted X videos
Maria Colaco
Gracias Muchos!
Ulvi
She's boring
Snugglepuss Hercules
I wish I could get her to talk with some people I know....to see what I am saying, someone else also think and know as well.
Samantha Grey
SO CAPTIVATING AND EDUCATIONAL. JUST WOW. WISH THERE WAS MORE
Dr. Joanny Liu
You are so right - we cannot ignore the human factor which is emotional! Thank you.The so-called rational mind/brain makes bad decisions on its own.
Kanchana Samarsinghe
This made my eyes close to tears meantime flushed with happiness for realizing something I never knew
The .Hunter
She is a guy, the shoulders and and musculine face lines gives it all away.
A Calm
Being nice gets "being nice" all the time? Naive! More complicated things going on relationships "people cheat they just cheat" being nice is good but don't expect it reciprocal
ric liu
looooove this
J L
Wonderful wonderful wonderful. This is so good, I listened to it twice. Every part is a gem.
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Marriage 2.0 -- a system update for lifelong Emotional laws are the answer for better 1 day ago   18:23

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Liza is the Director of Marriage and Family Therapy Services in Hickory, NC and a Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). She received her Master's Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Appalachian State University in 1999 and began her private practice at that time. Liza's expertise is in couples therapy, specifically, assisting couples to move beyond the barriers of their past and create futures together that may never before have seemed possible. "I consider it my personal mission to reduce the divorce rate in the United States... one couple at a time. But preventing divorce will only be successful if in place of unfulfilling or chronically dysfunctional marriages, couples develop truly thriving marriages and deeply fulfilling relationships."

In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)

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