Emotional laws are the answer for better The science of analyzing conversations, second 1 day ago   17:58

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Nuclear physics, astronomy and molecular biology truly lack complexity when they are juxtaposed to one word: relationships. Interpersonal relationships represent probably one of the most complicated ideas that have troubled the human mind.

Whether it's aristocracy, models, professional athletes or every day couples they all face the same difficulty of making their relationships work. Diana Wais talked about how "we are all the same" and how we respond with criticism when we feel threatened by words.

However, it is important to "respond to the other person's need with empathy", she said. It is difficult to understand when you are being emotional and when irrational. Her most valid point though was that, as individuals, we need to conquer the unconscious emotions and understand that essentially, we are all fighting the same internal fight.

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bo j
I don't understand why women are trying to analyse relationships.
In summary you will get cheated on there's no science behind it
ramelep
GRAND messages!!!!!!

Wonderful
Rob Ot
1:40 Hollywood fairytale dream 🌑
sshampoo
Chill on the fancy camera work 🤢
Aviva Hana Izdihara
Summarize:
»Awareness.
»Avoid getting triggered.
»Respond to the other person's need FIRST with love and empathy.

Questions you need to ask urself when ur getting triggered:
1. What's getting triggered in me?
2. What am I afraid of?
3. What's underneath of that?
4. What do i need to heal in me to not respond like this again in thr future?
Internet user
Oh thessaloniki is the city where l live
living
This is one of the great Tedx I have watched. Great lessons. Great speaker. Thanks for sharing!
Rebekka Swan
Welcome to the human family. We're all the same.
Elif Taş
awareness+avoid getting triggered+respond the other persons need first with love and emphaty
I think most beatiful part of this speech is the personal story she told. It begins in 7:11.
Anja Manuel
Go Diana! Wonderful talk.
Silfredo Rodriguez
Welcome to the human family. We are all the same
Amelia Nicholas
That was a great Ted talk
Glitter Maiden
What if the husband gave his wife reason to suspect an affair? What if he had a history of not showing her affection, taking her for granted and being a bully towards her? What if she found out he had an online dating profile? Sometimes we have good reason to believe bad things in others by their actions. I
Lidiya Artyukov
Very good video. I also learned a lot on this topic from AllatRa book and it changed my behavior and attitude to other people. Very recommended
Anna Malov
Great job. I am just curious why the triggers in women is usually associated with their father figure ,rarely anyone projecting towards mothers..
Isn't it important to consider family dynamic as a whole ?
meowkki
Why this lady sound like BMO
Kandela Brown
Is she paid by the minute? Blahhhhhhhblahhhhhhblahhhhh!!!!! Men are idiots for thinking they need a woman all day every day. No woman means you get to have that fast car, boat, motorcycle, go fishing when you want to, get home drunk without any problems, take a vacation where you want to, and best of all, burp and fart when you want to.
jaim haas
the accent is a pretty good reason to DO her.
Native American
Hummm I knew this, just needed that Conformation.. Thank You Love and Blessings..,Always 😇😇
charles Davidson
it's not just what others trigger in you, but it's what you say to yourself. i.e., you can and do trigger yourself then which makes you more susceptible to other's triggers. what's needed is a fifth question, what do i need to do to heal myself?
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The science of analyzing conversations, second Emotional laws are the answer for better 1 day ago   19:24

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Prof. Elizabeth Stokoe takes a run on what she terms the “conversational racetrack”—the daily race to understand each other when we speak—and explains how to avoid hurdles that trip us up and cause conflict.

Elizabeth Stokoe is a British scientist. She studies conversation analysis. She is a professor at Loughborough University. She graduated from the University of Central Lancashire (Preston Poly) in 1993 with a traditional psychology degree. Then Stokoe completed three years PhD research at Nene College (Leicester University) with Dr. Eunice Fisher.

Her research included videotaping interaction in university tutorials, and conducting conversation analyses of topic production, topic management, academic identity, and the relevance of gender. She developed these and other interests while working at the Institute of Behavioural Sciences (University of Derby, 1997-2000) and University College Worcester (2000-2002).

Stokoe joined the Department of Social Sciences at Loughborough in October 2002 and was promoted to Reader (2007) and Chair (2009). She teaches on the BSc Social Psychology programme, covering modules in relationships, qualitative methods and forensic psychology.

Stokoe developed the Conversation Analytic Role-play Method (CARM), an approach based on evidence about what sorts of problems and roadblocks can occur in conversation, as well as the techniques and strategies that best resolve these problems.[2] CARM won Loughborough University's Social Enterprise award (2013).

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