Refusing to Settle: The Quarter-Life Crisis Allow things to unfold and you will 2 days ago   16:14

TEDx Talks
What is a quarter-life crisis, and how do you break through it? In this engaging and funny talk, the author of an Amazon bestseller on finding meaningful work shares the takeaways from his and other young people confronting the quarter-life crisis head-on.

Adam Smiley Poswolsky is the author of The Quarter-Life Breakthrough, an Amazon bestseller. He has inspired professionals and entrepreneurs to find fulfilling work as director of community engagement for the Hive Global Leaders Program, and previously as director of The Bold Academy. He is a mentor for the StartingBloc Institute for Social Innovation and a facilitator for General Assembly and The Passion Co. He previously worked as special assistant to the Director of Global Operations at the U.S. Peace Corps.

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

Comments 842 Comments

The most important is to admit to yourself that you're miserable. I thought I'm the only one like that... I felt so miserable and pointless at my job. I felt that I'm capable to do much more, so much more than just being in that job. But I thought that's how life should be. All the family and friends were impressed by me. But I really hated that. Every day I would wake up to think that I hate my life. And I always was questioning myself, is this how it must be? Can't I change anything?
Eventually I got myself into state of depression and anxiety. Now I'm trying to recover. And for real, to do what I really wanted for my whole life....
Calvin Rivera
My friend who overdosed a few months ago, his nickname was "Smiley". :/

The way i look at it, this man is the alternative version of my friend, helping me get through my qtr life crisis. I just wish i was the one helping him go through what he was going through. :/

No schooling or experience in the mental health field could not have prepared me exactly what to do, when it's your close friend. :/ It's difficult.
Life is difficult
Quarter life crisis lollllllll
Oloja Deborah
Omg i heard Debby's story & i was inspired,she got rejected ALOT! But she kept moving.
Mary Swenson
Rising tide car wash? My 2 youngest brothers are autistic and I think that is absolutely amazing
merete rosenberg
absolutely smashing
Kira learns Norwegian
Rick Moranis???????
Harshita Vaswani
How do you think you're gonna make your path?

I do not know
Universal Love
Thanks for the great meaningful message. ❤❤❤
Arathy Anil
I should see this every morning
law bee
This is a great talk. Great job, Adam. Bravo! Hope everyone hears this message in some form from benevolent speakers like this dude. You deserve joy in your life
Adam Milne
Thank you. I'm a 28 y.o male...after battling with the idea of quitting my career path for months watching this video finally allowed me to make the right choice. I just quit a university course and career path that I absolutely loathed. I had suicidal thoughts, and I think you might have actually just saved my life, if not from suicide...from long term depression, anxiety, stress, constipation, poor health and eventually cancer. I cannot thank you enough for this video and this advice. Right now I am going to work a part-time job while working on some of the passion projects I have been thinking about recently. I really needed this video so thankyou.
Mindful Living Michigan
This is literally giving me chills
Jack Trewin
great talk - thanks Adam
Mike Restrepo
It is the lazy liberal generation tho.. very entitled but yea hustle is key dah you ain't entitled to anything you gotta work for it and take risk the common person won't.
Perhaps, I am missing the purpose of this video (and it's clear that I'm in the minority, judging by the comments), but some parts of this left me kinda cold. I sincerely appreciate the advice as a whole but everyone he mentioned (I guess except the Spanish guy maybe) is where many of us could only wish to be. It's hard to relate when you're not in a position to give others opportunity or when you're not around anyone who can give you an opportunity. You can work hard and hold down multiple jobs, but sometimes you just end up tired of the hustle while just barely breaking even. One can't follow their dreams because they never got to the point where they can do something "risky" as their entire life already has an unwanted element of risk (with no reward, mind you) built in.
Tom J
Originally didn't like this video. But it's a slow start, finally listening again and loving it
firalogy _
You made the ask!
Rawya Roumieh-Catto
Right what I need to hear. You re talking about me dude!
Add Reply

Allow things to unfold and you will Refusing to Settle: The Quarter-Life Crisis 2 days ago   16:35

With an appreciation of flow and motion Peggy's life has been always been driven by passion. From surfing and skateboarding to the intimate appreciation what she calls the 'Cetacean Nation'. Discovering the transformative force of participation artwork through her Origami Whales project was the first step to realising that passion could be harnessed, amplified and ultimately inspire for a deeper purpose.

Surfer, Skateboarder, Artist and Activist.
Once the only female member of the famous Zephyr Skateboard team from documentary 'Dogtown and Z-Boys': Peggy’s love of the outdoors inspires her to travel worldwide in search of good surf. In 2004, she founded the Origami Whales Project to raise awareness about commercial whaling. She has also developed the Whales and Dolphins Ambassador Program and led campaigns such as ‘Let’s Face It’, which petitions to save New Zealand’s critically endangered Maui’s dolphins and Hector’s dolphins.

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

Related Videos