Why I read a book a day (and why you should The skill of self confidence | Dr. Ivan 1 day ago   18:26

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In this talk, Tai Lopez reminds us that everyone wants the good life, but not everyone gets the good life because not everyone is willing to do what it takes.
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ResonAnt187
A thick book has over 24 hrs of content this is unrealistic and unbeneficial. Comprehension is part of reading and if you have no time to comprehend what you are reading because that would eat into your reading time, then i believe there is not as much absorption of the material. What’s the point?
Yureev Jogessar
Brilliant Tai! Thanks
Amani Mohammed
Amazing
Thank you 💜
푸르미Pureumi
10:21 Thought he was gonna say it feels good to help someone in need but instead he said "It's good to know someone's doing worse than you". I'm like what....? Seriously? Is this worth being a part of TED TALK? :(
Kunal Tripathi
You were rich to travel across the globe at age of 16 rest of us are not as lucky as you
THE FUTURE BILLIONAIRE
1 Books 8 times is Better than 8 books 8 days quality is Batter than quantity
Doomer the Loner
Here for the comments.
Ramakrishnan R
अर्थागमो नित्यमरोगिता च प्रियास्च भार्या प्रियवादिनी च |
वश्यश्च पुत्रः अर्थकरी च विद्या षड्जीवालोकस्य सुखानि राजन ||

arthAgamo nityamarogitA cha priyashcha bhAryA priya-vAdinI cha |
vashyashcha putro'rthakarI cha vidyA ShaD jIvalokasya sukhAni rAjan ||

Vidura identifies six components or sources of happiness in this mortal world. ArthAgama (Cash flows). Health. Friends. Sweet (pleasant) speaking wife (spouse). Obedient Children. Fruitful knowledge. Each of these can be discussed at length. But let us see them briefly.

The actual meaning of Arthaagama is Cash flows and not just Income. It is to be noted that Vidura did not use the word Sampatti which means Wealth. Wealth alone does not make a man happy. Imagine a man who owns a palace worth say 100 crore rupees or 100 million dollars. If he has no liabilities, a banker will put his net worth at a whopping 100 crores or ten million dollars. If he does not have any cash flows, how will he sustain himself? Another person who has a salary of 10000 per month but no other assets is happier since he can meet his daily needs. The palace owner cannot even maintain the palace without cash flows and in due course it will become Bhoot bangla or a haunted house. If he sells the palace and invests the money in fixed deposits (as for stock markets, better read "Stock Markets or Monkey business") the position drastically changes. His net worth would remain high, he will also have a regular income and he can live a comfortable or even a luxurious life. Liquidity is often a better indication of financial health than net worth. Hence bankers place a high value on Current Ratio. A person can lead a comfortable life as long as receipts on any day is equal to or more than the outgo of cash for that day. Cash flow may be comprising of Income, Capital Receipts or even borrowed funds. That is why Liquidity Management has assumed high importance now in Financial Management as well. Mahatma Vidur has rightly identified this as the first of the six sources of happiness.

The second source or component is good health. Vidura refers to daily health. Any human being may have an occasional cold or fever. Or headache and body ache. That is not sickness. But there should not be any regular ailment or permanent disease. Something that requires frequent hospitalisation and surgery etc. Even if all other sources of happiness are available, an unhealthy person cannot be happy as his mind and body always suffer. We have to again agree with Vidura.

The third source of happiness is good friends. Volumes can be written or spoken about the happiness derived from good friends. This is something we all know from experience.

The fourth source of happiness identified by Vidura is a pleasant speaking spouse. He refers to a sweet speaking wife since he is addressing King Dhritarashtra. He may have used the word भर्ता (husband) if he were addressing Queen Gandhari. Importance is usually given to facial beauty while fixing alliance for marriage. An advertisement for wrist watches once said "The face you see often while waiting for somebody should not be a bore!". The voice you hear for the rest of your life (assuming that divorce is not on the agenda). Voice used should also not be harsh, both in content and delivery. We know many men and women who have golden hearts but are very bitter in their talk. The voice should be sweet as well as the words used. Some spouses meet all the requirements of a good spouse, but there is an unnecessary bitterness in their words when they talk to the spouse. Some spouses do not know giving a straight answer to any question of the other and the answer is always in the form of a counter question. A harsh spouse will make life miserable even if other five sources or components are available. Of course, a person without a spouse is compared to a blind man. Unmarried persons are denied the pleasure as well as pain of having a spouse and can be ignored for this analysis.We have to perforce agree with Vidura's statement.

The fifth source or component of happiness is Obedient children. This is something that Dhritarashtra did not have. And he was not happy even for a day of his life after his children were born, due to this problem. Instead of being under his control, he had the misfortune of surrendering to the wishes of his eldest son all his life. Definition of obedience may vary from time to time during the life time of a person. Children do need independence and should be allowed to lead their own lives. But parents find life miserable if they are to lead a life obedient to their own children. But as Vidur meant, a good relation with children and children who show deference to the parents is a vital component of happiness in life.

The sixth and last source or component identified by Mahatma Vidura is Fruitful knowledge. The knowledge acquired by a person during his life time should be useful to himself as well as to the society. Considerable time and resources are spent in educating a man or woman. If the knowledge so acquired with much effort is not used for the benefit of the person concerned and the society, it is a colossal waste as well as can be a source of unhappiness in life for that person. Vidura is again right in his identification.

Thus when we consider the six sources or components identified by Mahatma Vidura, we can see that they are truly representative of the real happiness of a human being in this world. Not for nothing Vidura is recognised as a scholar and Philosopher for a long time.

Now that we know the six components or sources of happiness, we can evaluate ourselves against these yardsticks and decide where we stand; whether we are happy or unhappy or somewhere in between!
Theo
A book a day? Spoken like someone who's never read a book
RGPB
I came here just to say that your adds are annoying ! viral spam!!
Abdullah Hassan
He deserves a bigger audience
Westile
A book a day isn't impressive when they are children's picture books.
Just a Question
He tells the truth 67% of the time I guess
E T
Good job tai lopez. Very good speech man!! I read 1 book a day too! Wisdom is life!!!
Silvia Navarro
Everybody wants the good life but not everybody is willing to read to get it. Great advice!
사십쇼라면
i just watched video. and i wanna know why he is called a scammer in comments. could anyone tell me about this?
wissam BlackLion
Thank you Tai Lopez, Im glad to learn from you.
Manoj Thakor
Thank you
DodgeWatt
Nothing but buzz words and half thought out ideas.
DEEPAK MEHRA
This is one among my favorite Ted talk and even it help me to change my Life
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